When to have the sex talk?


http://www.redroom.com/audio/how-have-dreaded-sex-talk

            I just listened to this on redroom.com and I have to say, I’m not sure if I agree with this one or not.

See I’m the kind of person who will always take in someone else’s opinion, and if you don’t have 6:30 to listen to it let me make it simple for you. This Kim Iverson is asking “At what age should you have ‘The Dreaded Sex Talk?'” and Gina Misiroglu says that you should ease into informing them once they start becoming aware of their bodies and noticing pregnant people. I completely respect her opinion and if it words for her fantastic.

I on the other hand live with a five year old and my opinion is a little bit different, I don’t think that the “sex talk” or even mentioning sex at that age is necessary. I personally don’t feel that my 5-year-old sister needs to know about something that I didn’t even know about until middle school. If you explain the fundamentals of sex to a child who can’t even remember to wash their hands after going potty (of to a child who still says potty instead of bathroom) you’re gambling looking like a bad parent. You know the game telephone? For those of you who don’t the game goes like this:

You say something, example: “Jonny smells like poo”

The people playing the game pass the message around as a secret

At the end of the game the message will probably sound like this “Bunny Shells with Shoes”

My point is the information you give a child about sex is probably not going to stay the same, and children like to talk about what they know, so if you were to explain to a child sex, and they explain it to a friend, (and the information gets mixed up) and said child goes home and tells their parents, this parent could A.) Be royally pissed that their child is talking about sex. or B.) Explain it the right way. Either way, some parents choose to some parents don’t. And you don’t need to be the most hated parent in town, or deemed irresponsible.

I think when children can go to the bathroom by themselves and tie their own shoes, and retain correct information and report it to someone else the way they were taught, that’s when I think it’s okay to tell your kids about sex. Until then, let them worry about coloring inside the lines.

Until next time,

Mesa Mendoza

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One comment

  1. Some friends were talking about how they’ll be discussing this with their daughters when they’re 8-9 years old. Their rationale was very sensible: Given the increasingly earlier onset of menstruation, it will be important for them to know it’s coming and to know what it signals. (Obviously this all will be presented in a manner that emphasizes the import of waiting several years to do anything remotely procreation-esque!)

    My son’s 20 months, so I hadn’t thought that far ahead yet. It’s probably good to have these questions brought up early so I’m not surprised by them at less opportune times. 🙂

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