Bad hair day
These are the things we loathe when we look in the mirror. We look at all of these things and wonder why we don’t look like someone else, how will we ever be Instagram worthy? You’ve thought this and you’ve seen the people in the magazines or on bug screens and you compare yourself to what you’ll never amount to.
We all do it, I’m not sure how we started or if we’ll ever stop.
I am a victim of this myself. My body has changed and I don’t always like what I see. It’s a constant struggle to remind myself that I am worthy of more than self deprecating remarks and constant comparisons. I earned my stretch marks and was gifted beautiful children. My scars tell stories of vulnerability and a mistake (or two) with a quesadilla press. The hair on my body is beyond my control and instead of conforming to a standard of beauty that is damn near unattainable I tell myself it’s okay to go without shaving my legs, do people really have nothing better to do than to look down at me for the hair on my legs?
The clothes I wear and the style I desire do not always go hand in hand but my personality and human nature are far more interesting. I want to talk to people about what matters and not what everyone is else looks like.
We constantly compare ourselves to others, I don’t know how we started or if we’ll ever stop.
I’m learning to love myself and to do so I’ve had to look at the things I don’t like and ask myself why I don’t like them.
Were you teased about it?
Has society deemed in undesirable?
Have you beaten that tiny little part of you to a point where it’s become the enemy?
I’ve done all of these. I’ve done extensive damage to myself by continuously saying I’m not good enough.
Oh but my beautiful friends we are good enough.
We are capable of love
Our laughs carry infections joy
Our body’s comfort others when they are low
Our souls connect with others and they say I love you.
If we can love another we need to make it a point to love ourselves.
These things we have conditioned ourselves to hate likely mean nothing to those around us. These people are happy we are alive, that our paths have crossed. These people are too busy dealing with their own insecurities to be looking down on you.
Tell people how you feel.
Tell them your insecurities.
Tell then how you feel about them.
We do not take enough time in a day to remind people how important they truly are in our lives.
If we make it a priority to have an open conversation with the people we love, we could learn a lot more about others as well as ourselves.
If you’ve gotten this far, thank you for let be vulnerable with you.
Continue working to love yourself, you’ll get there I promise.
Thank you for being in this moment.
Until next time.